Time: The Biggest Gift You Can Give To Your Children!
The best time to guide a person is when they are young. Young kids are innocent; they have empty minds, which is ready to accept anything. Good habits can be quickly ingrained in them when they are small. The parents must give their time to kids.
Most of the people these days are very busy. And things have become even more complicated with the woman also getting involved in the professional world. This leaves little or no time available for small kids. But it is the responsibility of the parents to find time for their children.
“Each day of our lives, we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.” – Charles R. Swindoll
Beware! Your children might tell you one day, “If you did not want to give me your time, why did you bring me to this world?” What answer will you give in that case?
Give time to your children. Become a child with them when you are with them rather than being a parent or a teacher.
I remember an incident one day when I was traveling in a train. A mother and her daughter were sitting beside me. The daughter was around 7-8 years old. She was reading a book of short stories. The lady sitting at the opposite side got surprised and asked, “My daughter never touches books and is always glued to mobile games and television. How did your daughter get used to reading?”
“She learns from us. I don’t use unnecessary mobiles and love reading books, and gradually, she also loves to read.”
It is straightforward, isn’t it? Children are like malleable mud. You can make an earthen pot; you can mold them the way you want to make.
“The best inheritance a parent can give his children is a few minutes of his time each day.”
— Orlando Aloysius Battista, Canadia-American chemist and author
It is important to let children get inspired by you and adopt some of your methods. Do not try to force your thinking and expect them to behave as you want, Give them space and let them pick what is acceptable to them. Become a silent observer of the behavior and activities of your child. Enjoy those moments because if you look at them closely, there will be no greater joy for you.
Give them freedom but keep an eye on them, so they do not get into bad habits. Take them to the garden and bring sweets for them occasionally and give gifts to them on their birthdays. What else would a child expect from his parents than love?
“Children must be taught how to think, not what to think.”
— Margaret Mead
Also, keep track of the things which they enjoy doing. If you find that they are taking an interest in drawing, or they love crafting or dancing, make a note of it. Later on, keep the option open to let them flourish in the activity of their choice. Do not try to make them a doctor or an engineer, but let them become one if they are interested. Never compare your child with another and make them embarrassed. Imagine how you would feel if your child would compare you with Bill Gates or Steve Jobs and force you to become one.
- The best gift you can give to your child is your love. Give time to your children when they are young; otherwise, you will never be able to develop a great relationship with them in the future.
- Don’t force things on your children. Give them space and let them do things on their own.
- Guide them at regular intervals.
- Don’t compare them with other children.
- Make a note of the things which they love doing and check their progress for it and consider this is an option for their future.